And to say so is not in and of itself confrontational, but simply affirmative of a natural affinity the majority of Men feel for one another. Neither the anus nor the rectum are genitalia, period. For two Men the natural experience is that which stimulates both of them phallically - not anally. For a Man and a Woman sex is a naturally penetrative act. In the same way, during phallus-to-phallus sexual activity, Men are related to one another as they should be, in that part of their body that fits together genitally and sensually. They are made that way, like counterweights or puzzle pieces, complementary of one another. To draw a parallel with male-female sex: Men and Women connect to one another genitally. Whereas Frot, phallus-against-phallus contact, is the acme of sexual activity between Men because it's focused on that which makes Men Masculine, namely their genitals - their Manhood - rather than their organs of fecal excretion. This is an inherently unequal act, epitomized by its tedious terminology of "tops" and "bottoms," which is unmindful of the basic human need for a shared experience without pain and with dignity. In addition, no magic or wishful thinking can transform either the anus or the rectum into genital organs, nor can the feelings experienced by a male being penetrated anally be compared to those of genital stimulation.įurther, anal penetration subjugates one of the participants to the other, effectively emasculating him, turning him into a pseudo-woman, a proxy in a heterosexualized form of contact. These dangers, of which HIV/AIDS is the best known, but which include hepatitis B and C, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, the human papilloma virus, herpes, and a host of other pathogens, will persist even after AIDS has been cured or can be prevented through vaccination.Īnd more anally-transmitted diseases most certainly await discovery.įor anal penetration is an exceptionally efficient mode of disease transmission, and we can be sure that pathogens will continue to find an infective niche in anal. Yet the erotic pleasure in anal penetration is so minimal, and, when joined with promiscuity, the dangers anal presents to its practitioners and the community so great, that it's difficult to conceive of a practice more ruinous or less enjoyable taking center place in a sexual subculture. While "gay male" culture has become obsessed with anal penetration, incessantly asserting that anal is the ultimate expression of erotic contact between males, and that no sexual encounter is complete unless it culminates in an act of anal penetration. Too often, men are taught that any physical bonding with another man that involves sex or emotion automatically brands them as something less than a man. "Straight / heterosexual" culture defines Men within the confines of a narrow and sterile idea of how men should relate to one another, both emotionally and physically. This central premise flies in the face of beliefs cherished by both the dominant " heterosexual" and " homosexual" cultures. This Man2Man Alliance website, then, and our affiliated Heroic Homosex and Frot Men domains, are advocacy sites, dedicated to putting forth the truth that two Men can best have a physically and emotionally loving relationship when it's expressed through the celebration of their Mutual Masculinity and the exaltation of their Mutual Manhood. The Man2Man Alliance is a coalition of Men - some of whom self-identify as "gay," others as "straight," and others as "bi" - but most of whom today have rejected those out-dated labels and now simply identify as Men - Men who are determined to win recognition from society of the genuineness of their feelings for one another and of the validity of the expression of that affection through Frot, phallus-on-phallus sex, which is not only life-affirming and masculine but mindful of both participants' shared and mutual enjoyment. Who reject anal penetration, promiscuity, and effeminacyįrot (rhymes with "hot") is the contemporary term for the male-male erotic practice formerly known as "frottage": full-body, phallus-on-phallus sex, done face-to-face and heart-to-heart.